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The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #114? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.
This Week’s Picks A Different Kind Of Authority For Sex Bloggers
“As we sex workers, sex bloggers, and adult business folks swim in our ponds or spin in our micro universes & connect with others, we continue to build authority.”
Of sex and strippers
“At one point she was straddling Girlfriend’s right leg, grinding her thigh against Girlfriend’s clit through her jeans.”
Wink Wink, Nudge Nudge
Her comments were something to the effect of, “No one wanted to see me twirl with tassels ~ on fire or not ~ when some girl was going to sit on stage and insert things into herself.”
The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #113? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form.
This Week’s Picks If She Were Here
“I licked him behind his ear the way I know it drives him crazy.”
Quickie
“Their eyes locked for a full minute, with neither moving, nor speaking, and the lust flowing between almost tangible in its intensity.”
The Devastator
“She walked over to me, and pressed her warm mouth against mine.”
I have given my share of hand jobs. I think at this point I could safely even call myself an expert at giving a hand job.
My secrets are:
Take off your jewelry, your rings and your bracelet or watch. You don’t want to scratch the most sensitive of his parts.
Use a good lube. I highly recommend using the JO System Lube.
Ask him to touch himself for a while first and observe how he touches himself. If you’re lucky, you don’t have to ask - he’s the type of guy who has no problem reaching down to stroke his own cock and you can just lie your head on his tummy and watch. Notice where he places his thumb and how he wraps his fingers. Does he hold his cock firmly or gently? Does he twist his hand or just slide it up and down? He knows how he likes to be touched, he’s been doing it for most of his life, so take notice.
Explore his cock with your fingers. Close your eyes and let your fingers do the walking, so to speak. Respond to his feedback with more or less pressure and/or more or less speed. Don’t be afraid to try new things.
Use both hands. Nothing like the feeling of the neverending pussy, is what I’ve heard. One hand over the other over the other and so on. You’ll want lots of lube for a nice experience.
When you’re not using both hands, use both hands. What I mean is, even if you’re not doing a two handed stroke on your mate, use your “free” hand to stroke his balls or gentle rub his ass with the tip of your finger. If he’s really adventurous, you can slide a well-lubed finger in and give his prostate a little tickle. If he responds positively that, keep doing it! The end result will be a very intense orgasm.
And if you’re really interested in learning some new techniques to try out on your Man, take a look at this website. It’s really neat. They have video demonstrations of different ways to stroke a man’s cock. I have it bookmarked!
In my opinion, few things rival watching a woman give a great blow job. I love giving head. I love sucking cock. It’s true, I’m a cockwhore. When my Husband has his fingers inside of me, all I want is to feel his cock down my throat.
So I think I’m pretty good at it, not just because I like it, but also because I’ve actually studied the art. I watch what other women do, I watch what other men do, I take advice, I pay close attention to His reaction while I’m sucking him, and I have years and years of experience sucking the same man’s cock pretty much daily.
That is why I’m going to share with you my favorite blow job tips:
Avoid alcohol. Because it tightens the throat muscles you want to stay away from alcohol. The key to great deep head is to relax your throat muscles enough to take him all in.
Drink orange juice. It suppresses the gag reflex as well as thickens and increases the saliva in your mouth. You’ll be drooling all over his cock.
If you feel like you are going to gag, swallow. I know this sounds counterintuitive, but try it.
Exhale before taking his cock in your mouth. It will increase your oral capacity by 33%.
Flatten your tongue and extend it down towards the base of his shaft. Move your tongue around a bit while you’re giving him head, swirl it around the base or the head as you suck.
Alternate hot and cold sensations by sipping on ice water and hot tea.
Don’t just use your mouth, use your hand as well. You can use it: as a stopper to ensure that you control the amount of cock you take; as an improvised cock ring to keep him hard; to stroke him as you suck him; or to play with his balls, ass, nipples or perineum.
Have fun with it and laugh. Try to be the sexy pornstar. Look up at him while you’re sucking him off with a sexy look across your face. Nothing is hotter than really loving his cock and really wanting his cum (in the moment).
Oh I wish all my friends lived closer… I want to hang out with January Seraph, work with January Seraph, and… well, truthfully I’d love to have January Seraph right between Marky D. Sade and myself. Still, you can at least enjoy her pictures. She updates very frequently and has really creative pictures. She’s still fairly new in the scene, so you don’t find her picture everywhere you look.
I think they’re hot - you should think they’re hot, too. If you have a few dollars to spend on good fetish pictures, spend them here.
I know this is primarily a blog on sex but I was convinced to put this up. A pedicure can be fun for you and a great treat for the recipient (naturally). You can give one to your significant other, a friend, even a family member, or anyone comfortable enough to have you handling their feet.
A professional pedicure at a salon can take about 30 minutes. Expect this one to take 1-2 hours depending on how long you spend on each step, so make sure you have enough time before you begin. There are a number of short how-to’s on giving a pedicure available on the Internet, but what I have written here is almost the whole nine yards, with steps for each step, so be prepared for a read! Skip to any step if you just want the skinny on something in particular.
Able hands, patience, and feet in need of pampering
Step 1: Get comfortable
You should both be in comfortable relaxed clothing.
Sit her some place that the both of you can be comfortable. You’ll need to be positioned so that you can access her feet easily and go through all the steps. The couch or a comfy chair is the best place for her as you’ll need her feet near the floor.
Bring her a cup of hot coffee, tea, cocoa, or whatever she likes to help her relax.
Light a scented candle with a relaxing scent such as lavender (or her favorite)
Step 2: Soothe her feet
A home foot spa is great if you have one. Most people don’t have this so simply soaking her feet in a tub or plastic wash basin will do. Add the foot salt soak to warm water and stir it a bit to ensure it is dissolved.
Let her feet soak for about 15 minutes. It will soften and soothe them.
After soaking dry her feet completely with a towel. If you’d like, you can heat the towel up by putting it in the dryer for 5 minutes or sitting it folded over an air vent if the heat is on. Going from a warm foot bath to a warm towel will feel even better.
Step 3: Prepare her toes
If necessary, use the nail clippers to trim back her toenails so that there is about 2-3 mm or so of nail past the edge. Cut in a straight line, not a curve, to prevent in-growing toenails. Don’t cut too much….you want enough there to paint!
File her nails with the emeryl file, arcing across the edge to mildly round out the toenail. Don’t use it on the surface of the nail as emeryl files are often too abrasive, not to mention the metal edge can slice painfully into the cuticles. You’ll need to hold each toe steady in turn so be careful not to squeeze it too hard.
Buff her toenails, edges and top surface, with the 4-step nail buffer. This will smooth out the nails.
Brush the cuticle nail oil onto her cuticles. Using your thumbs, gently massage the oil into the cuticle of each toe.
Trim of any bits of loose skin visible on the edges of the toenails using the cuticle trimmer. Do NOT cut the actual cuticles, despite the name of the tool.
Gently push back the cuticles using the cuticle pusher. You do this by sliding it across the back of the toenail against the cuticle. Some cuticle trimmers come with a cuticle pusher on the other end.
Step 4: Massage her feet
Prepare the massage oil by heating it in a small dish if you’d like. I recommend using KY Touch Warming Foot Massage, which you don’t need to heat up in advance. You can activate the heat through friction (obviously) and also by blowing gently on the KY Warming variety.
Rub the oil between your hands to get them lubricated and to ensure it is warm (if you didn’t heat it).
Massage each foot in turn using the oil. This should take 30-45 minutes. There are a number of good how-to’s and videos on the web showing techniques for foot massage. Here are some general tips to keep in mind though:
If she is ticklish, go very slow and use pressure enough that the tickling isn’t so bad.
You should use smooth slow strokes. This allows the tissue to better move blood.
The heel and ball of the foot can generally take more pressure.
Be careful how you hold her foot. Don’t let your finger tips press into the tops. Try to hold it with your fingers flat.
Don’t forget to massage her toes! Gingerly massage them with finger and thumb as if painting up and down with a brush between your fingers.
Step 5: Exfoliate her feet
Set her feet on a clean towel.
Put some pumice foot scrub into the palm of your hand and rub it around to get it warm before applying it to her feet.
Rub it across the top and bottom of her foot, including the Achilles tendon. Work each toe lightly and individually. Be careful not to apply too much pressure as you want to exfoliate the skin, not rub it raw.
Move to the next foot when the pumice foot scrub starts to create too much traction. The scrub will have broken up the cuticle and massage oil as well.
Using a warm wet wash clothe clean off her feet gingerly. You will probably have to re-wet it with warm water two or three times to completely remove the foot scrub grains. Don’t forget in between her toes!
Use the pointed tip of the emeryl file to slowly and carefully remove any grit that has built up under the edges of her toenails. This is a delicate matter because the last thing you want is to slice into the skin under her nail.
If she still has some thick rough spots on the bottoms of her feet then use the pumice stone to smooth them out.
Apply the moisturizing cream to her feet to lock in moisture.
Step 6: Paint her toenails
Apply a base coat using the strengthening top & base coat solution to each toenail. Allow to dry.
Apply the first coat of nail polish in smooth strokes across the toenails, being careful not to get it on the skin, covering the whole nail. The smaller toes can usually be covered in one stroke. Don’t go back over the coat of polish even it has just been there a few seconds as multiple unnecessary strokes can make the polish gummy and uneven.
Allow the first coat to dry completely. Blowing on the toes will speed this up a bit. It should not be tacky feeling when you apply the next coat or the tackiness will catch the paint brush as it is applied, making the coat look poor. While waiting on the nail polish to dry you can lightly massage her feet some more to pass the time, but be careful not to touch the nail polish.
Apply the second coat of nail polish and allow to dry completely.
Optionally you may try your hand at nail art using a nail art brush on the toenail of the big toe. You can use a cotton pad to wipe the tiny tip to the nail art brush when you need to switch colors. There are also polish bottles available specifically for nail art that have the art brush built in. I personally find that a nail art brush allows for better control though.
After any nail art is completely dry you will apply the top coat using the strengthening top & base coat solution.
Very carefully remove any excess nail polish from the skin around her toenails using cue-tips or the pointed tip of the emeryl file. Optionally she may wait until the next morning and just allow any excess polish to come off in the shower.
Apply any nail art stickers or jewels after the top coat is dry if you decide to.
So there you have it! Hope it wasn’t too much to take in! If you have fun (and still have a willing participant) you should be able to do more/better on subsequent pedicures…..and who knows, that pedicure could take a more interesting turn for you both as it has for me before. Some ladies just love to put their well pampered feet to naughty uses. Have fun!
So Marky D. Sade and I have decided to team up and start writing a little couples blog. I like how it’s taking shape. If you’re curious, and I know you are, then click and visit. Keep in mind that it’s temporarily hosted at Wordpress.com, but soon we’ll be moving it to http://mrandmrskink.com.
Normally I push Stockroom, because they have great customer service and I like them. But I also shop at Extreme Restraints, and sometimes I prefer them because they have a larger selection. I especially like them when they are having their annual 15% off Christmas Sale — for those who prefer naughty over nice.
That’s one thing you can always count on at Catalinasays.com (and Catalinaloves.com) - I make my recommendations based on who I like and who I support personally — I’m not anybody’s bitch. That’s why sometimes I’ll send you to Stockroom, and sometimes to Extreme Restraints, at times to the Collar Factory. Why? Because Catalina says so.
Have fun!
